In 1990 Martin Seligman released his ground breaking book, Learned Optimism. Since I have occasionally been accused of behaving Pollyannaish or overly optimistic, his work is of interest to me.
Do you remember a television show called Kids Say the Darndest Things? It aired from 1998 to 2000. Well, I propose that often times parents say the darndest things. I used to say them myself until I learned to improve my communication skills. Good parenting starts with awareness and then choosing better. Here we will […]
In 2012 the shame researcher, Brene´ Brown published Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. I have watched Brown’s interviews with Oprah, her popular TEDTalks, and insightful animations. Her style is down-home, intelligent, compassionate, and deeply personal. Those who can not tolerate seeing others full […]
Years ago my father did not speak to me for six months. When our oldest daughter, Kelly was in jail (see the book, Love Her As She Is) she asked for bail money. After we said no, she did not speak to us for many months. When our youngest daughter told us about her diagnosis […]
Dr. John M. Gottman has trained many marital counselors from Calgary and around the world. I have met a good number of them and they all praise his work. Gottman is described as North America’s most knowledgeable researcher in the area of successful marriage. Yet, I suggest you consider his concepts as described here to […]
Consider that it has been estimated that up to 90% of some people’s self-talk is negative.
Nancy Loraas, a Calgary-based executive, leadership, and communication coach, sent me a request to fill in a communications questionnaire. As I was filling it in I began to think, “My answers might be helpful to my readers; those interested in effective communication skills.” Consequently, I am sharing Nancy’s questions and my answers. Nancy’s Communication Skills […]
Gult needlessly plagues many people.
Invite and negotiate household workload.
Indeed, light heartedness and sense of humor is a basic resilience strengthening strategy.
In 2015 I organized a national Canadian Mother’s Day writing contest called WOW MOM: Honoring Resilient Mothers. Contestants wrote a tribute to a mom. Five objective readers decided the top winners who were given prizes worth over one thousand dollars. The top eight entries are below. I hope these tributes inspire you to write a […]
Leaders know. Those who hire business coaches know. Big Brothers and Sisters know. They know our lives are influenced by other people and we can speed being and doing our best when we choose resilient and healthy role models. Yet, many of us give little thought to the idea of having role models. There is […]