Most of us have had our personal boundaries violated. I have been asked in a job interview how much money my husband makes. The obvious answer was “None of your business.” Then there was the manager who patted my behind. Boundaries in relationships help all parties feel emotionally and physically safe. When we establish clear […]
Personal boundaries provide an effective strategy to handle many different external woes or adversities. Survey respondents quoted in my book, From Woe to WOW, indicated such. An outreach worker wrote, “I wish I’d stood up to her,” an office receptionist wrote, “I should have stood up for myself months sooner,” and a nurse wrote, “I didn’t make the world a better place by running away.”
You have known your conscious, aware part of yourself all your life. You know what you know. However, most adults have stifled, stuffed, or denied many of their painful and dysfunctional childhood experiences. Most adults have unconscious thoughts and beliefs, and emotional triggers. Many have trouble regulating their emotions. This is, of course, inhibits our […]
Really, a dream can strengthen resilience? Yep, and here’s why and how.
How can you tell if you are addicted to approval?
The concept of inner child work, in the field of psychological healing, increased in the 1960s, particularly due to the theory of Transnational Analysis developed by the Canadian born psychiatrist, Eric Berne. Discovering and developing a relationship with your inner child is similar to concepts and ideas such as making the unconscious conscious, getting to […]
This guide is intended to serve as a signal to your deep, unconscious self, to relax and find a place of deep inner peace. Because you are doing something new, your conscious self may, at first, be skeptical. “What me, get into woo-woo?” Be gentle on yourself and tell your skeptic, “It won’t hurt […]
Not only is humor a key resilient strengthening tool it has become a hot topic in the world of employment.
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” Soren Kierkegaard, Danish existentialist philosopher. My client said something like, “I hate my life. Are you suggesting that I need to accept what is to move on? How does that make sense?” We were discussing an existential paradox. It reminded me of the […]
At the beginning of April, in response to covid-19, I offered my eNewsletter recipients three free counselling sessions. The response was significant. Several themes emerged. Half of the respondents were warding off elevated distress and anxiety levels. The other half were taking advantage of the extra time for introspection–to explore their feelings, beliefs and stumbling […]
Your body does not lie. Listen to it. Millions of dollars worth of books fill the health sections of bookstores with basically the same message; to better deal with your stress get adequate rest, eat sensibly, and exercise more. Look after your body. We have more than enough information about making wise wellness decisions. But […]
During covid-19, many of us are required to spend hours, days, weeks, and longer with family, roommates or others. Hopefully we like those others. But even the best of relationships can go sideways if communication skills are poor. As I’ve written before, our relationships thrive, suffer or die in the sea of communication, just like […]