Fred, the oldest known goldfish, lived to forty-one years of age. It is a mystery how he survived so long. Unlike Fred, we humans can have a full and vibrant life if we keep breathing outside the fish bowl. That requires us to seize our days, as we age. Yes, join me in resilient aging–growing […]
The shame and vulnerability researcher, Brene Brown has written another book that informs, pleases and inspires–Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. Overview: In true Brene Brown style, she shares her own struggle, confusion and journey of seeking a sense of belonging. She shares how she felt a […]
Guest blogger, Alexis Leclair The boomer retirement wave is upon us. Yet many retirees, anticipating longer, healthier lives, are re-imagining retired life where work plays a major role. And savvy employers trying to maintain workforce capacity in the wake of the retirement wave are embracing the concept that retirement no longer means good-bye. Several factors […]
Six of our family members were on vacation. I rushed to prepare supper and threw half a dozen big potatoes into the microwave. The machine collapsed, pooped out and is dead. That old flash thought of, “You are stupid,” moved in; regardless of me knowing we all experience shame moments to some extent or another. […]
Knowing if you are a connector, maven or salesperson can stregnthen your resilience.
Neil Pasricha has followed up his best selling books, The Book of Awesome and The Happiness Equation with the resiliency-focused, You Are Awesome: How to Navigate Change, Wrestle with Failure, and Live an Intentional Life. I am not quite sure why his staff contacted me with an offer of a pre-launch copy of You Are […]
“The kids are all grown up and we’re empty nesters!” It sounds like a taste of freedom, but once adult children are grown, the relationship works like a retractable dog leash—pull and tug, more or less slack, pushing for space while longing for closeness. It’s like an in and out dance. Indeed, two of our […]
1. If you participate in negative gossip, ask yourself what is really going on for you. Do you feel jealous, resentful or superior? Does it give you a sense of belonging? What is the payoff for participating? Then find a healthy way to meet your need.
It is affirming to see some fathers pushing baby prams and taking parental leave. My Dad never saw the inside of a poopy diaper. By my generation, childcare was starting to go in a gender equal direction. Now I see my children parent with even more equity. Yet, I also see family stress spinning in […]
Although, at times, those with high resilience feel nervous, they are typically immune to feeling high anxiety. For others, full blown panic attacks can not only be frightening and exhausting but debilitating.
Those who have fallen into the fog of euphoric lust is “move on.” We can let this state of “in love” rob us from valuable time and energy and dead end us from truly living.
It was a pleasant enough social gathering with a diverse mix of guests engaged in light, casual conversation. A young man began to describe how his life would be transformed, fixed, and truly perfect, if only…. He would be happy if only he landed his dream job with an annual salary of $130,000. He presently earns $95,000. He is probably caught […]