As a therapist, I witness people whose lives have fallen apart or have become unbearable to continue as is. I often hear the simple but dreadfully difficult question to answer, “Why?” People naturally long to create meaning from their emotional pain. Resilience is called upon when we face tough situations. We want to bounce back, […]
Consider this thought “I need to provide self-care to the mother of my children.” We do our family no favor when we become a stressed mother. Our children need us at our best. To do that, we need to treat ourselves as if we are deserving and cherished. Indeed, most of us are! Mothers, whether […]
“Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness.” Richard Carlson The kids were fighting. The phone was ringing. There was no time for breakfast. I was going to be late for work. I ran out the door with the kids, my coffee, and a headache. That scenario is an example of […]
Psychologist, Marg Wolf trained many helping professionals, including me. We were interns in the ten-week domestic violence prevention program called, You are Not Alone. Marg provided clear and helpful feedback that made the process easy, doable, repeatable and empowering. Indeed, her performance feedback improved our skill levels! Not once did I experience criticism. I experienced […]
Feminism has had a resurgence! No one asked Meghan Markle, now the Duchess of Sussex, “Are you a feminist?” She had made it clear long before saying “I do” to Prince Harry. On her own page on the Royal website is the line, “I am proud to be a woman and a feminist.” The Ups […]
Stress is basically a disconnection from the earth, a forgetting of the breath. Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. Nothing is that important. Just lie down.” Natalie Goldberg Stress Research Not long ago stress researchers made a significant discovery. We can reduce our distress and age indicators by attending […]
Teresa said, “Patricia, I would love to read some of your work on dealing with employees who are controlling, easily agitated and off the wall! It seems like my co-worker wants to get even with me for nothing. She starts yelling even if I dare to identify areas that could easily be improved. What are […]
The expectation that we can be immersed in suffering and loss daily and not be touched by it, is as unrealistic as expecting to walk through water and not get wet. Rachel Naomi Remen As a therapist, as well as, sometimes, family caregiver of those with disabilities, there have been times I needed to be […]
Ready to self-promote? Why would you? You will need to self-promote if ever you want to move up a career ladder or move into a desired position, or land a job or sell your services or product. How do you do it? Self-promotion is the ability to let others know your strengths, capabilities, and accomplishments. […]
There is always the inside of you that you can manage.
A number of years ago, I created a little slide-show called, Have I Told You I Remain A Feminist? At that time numerous people told me, “But the feminist movement is over”. Those who seemed surprised by the word were curious enough to ask, “What is feminism?” Definition of Feminism One of the clearest definitions […]
Many of us have moved from saying “Woe is me” to “WOW! I survived and I am even thriving.” We could ask ourselves, “Where did my resiliency develop? And if it did not develop in childhood, when did it develop?” If you do not identify yourself as resilient, you may not recognize your capacity to […]