Book Summary: You Can’t Be Serious: Putting Humor to Work
Not only is humor a key resilient strengthening tool it has become a hot topic in the world of employment.
From Unease to Ease with Existential Paradox
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” Soren Kierkegaard, Danish existentialist philosopher. My client said something like, “I hate my life. Are you suggesting that I need to accept what is to move on? How does that make sense?” We were discussing an existential paradox. It reminded me of the […]
Introspection: Are You Asking the Right Questions?
At the beginning of April, in response to covid-19, I offered my eNewsletter recipients three free counselling sessions. The response was significant. Several themes emerged. Half of the respondents were warding off elevated distress and anxiety levels. The other half were taking advantage of the extra time for introspection–to explore their feelings, beliefs and stumbling […]
How to Develop Body Awareness to Better Manage Your Stress
Your body does not lie. Listen to it. Millions of dollars worth of books fill the health sections of bookstores with basically the same message; to better deal with your stress get adequate rest, eat sensibly, and exercise more. Look after your body. We have more than enough information about making wise wellness decisions. But […]
Stay at Home with Covid-19: Let’s Have a Conversation
During covid-19, many of us are required to spend hours, days, weeks, and longer with family, roommates or others. Hopefully we like those others. But even the best of relationships can go sideways if communication skills are poor. As I’ve written before, our relationships thrive, suffer or die in the sea of communication, just like […]
Healing from Betrayal: How to Forgive and Trust Again
Here are some thoughts of the dynamics of feeling betrayed.
Find Your Calling: Live Your Life Purpose
Wouldn’t you know it? As soon as I made the grand statement in the article Use Your Strengths that identifying your strengths is an “easy and meaningful way to feel on purpose,” O magazine of Oprah Winfrey’s empire publishes a feature called, Everyone Has a Calling. It leads with “There’s The Thing You Do For A Living—And Then There’s The Thing You Were Born To Do.”
A Personal and Resiliency-Based Response to the Coronavirus
You, along with millions of others, are probably on alert due to the potential danger of the coronavirus. One visible result is crowds of people purchasing and hoarding toilet paper! If you are not directly facing the challenges of the virus, you are probably dealing with the ripple effects of the protective measures our community […]
Recognition is Important! Learn How to Do It the Right Way
People with high resilience value acknowledgement and use words of recognition.
Book Summary: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
From the early 1990s, I have had Susan Jeffers’ classic publication, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway prominent on my bookcase. I recommend it to my clients, as it is one of the most practical, clear, and common sense self-help books ever written. My clients experience positive change even when they merely accept the […]
Tried and True Relationship Advice That Sticks
Les and I have attended the Banff Couples Conference (now The Rocky Mountain Couples Retreat) over 27 times! It’s a wonderful weekend of tried and true relationship advice presented by experts intended to deepen and repair new and old coupleships. You see, we have discovered that coupleships can be strengthened and made more resilient […]
You Can Develop Resilience to Willpower Fatigue
Each evening between 10:30 and 11 pm, my hubby, Les retires to bed. Each morning he rises between 6:30 and 7 am. Regardless the weather, each day he takes 2 to 3 walks and eats 3 conservative sized meals plus one evening sweet treat. Each Sunday he waters the plants and attends Sunday service with […]