In a recent social media exchange, the question of when to accept the status quo and when to uphold one’s beliefs was sparked. I posted, “When faced with an unchangeable situation, take a moment to reconsider your perspective.” I firmly believe that adapting to change is a valuable skill. However, one person’s response challenged my […]
Parenthood is a journey filled with myriad emotions and challenges. It’s a path where love, responsibility, and self-discovery often converge. A recent conversation with a client brought to light the complexities of motherhood, reminding me that it’s a role that extends far beyond nurturing and care. Her inner turmoil of grappling with guilt and responsibility […]
Fascinated by Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory (See The Polyvagal Institute), I embarked on a journey of sharing valuable tips and implementing new strategies with my counseling clients. Alongside this, I crafted a range of resources, encompassing exercises and comprehensive lists of strategies designed to aid individuals in managing their anger, anxiety, fear, hopelessness, and […]
1. If you participate in negative gossip, ask yourself what is really going on for you. Do you feel jealous, resentful or superior? Does it give you a sense of belonging? What is the payoff for participating? Then find a healthy way to meet your need.
Give up looking for work-life balance! If that sounds radical, read on as we explore reasons to do so and how to do it. I recall taking a work-life balance workshop and filling in the pie pieces to assess if I was balancing work with my marriage, with care of our children, with my friendships, […]
The self-help leader and author of Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill wrote, “Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday.” Does this ring a bell for you? If so, have you wondered how to stop procrastinating? Do you repeatedly find […]
My favorite Positive Psychology book is Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being, authored by Dr. Martin Seligman. For many years I have been a fan of Seligman, a psychologist and founder of Positive Psychology. I was thrilled in 2009 to attend the first World Congress on Positive Psychology in Philadelphia. Yes, I […]
Childhood, adolescent, and sometimes adult experiences can create core negative beliefs. In childhood, these beliefs can be planted by the absence of parental or caregiver attention and security.
In an interview with leadership coach, Gary Smith, we explored the commonly asked question, “How does stress affect leadership?” We discussed how to use stress in a positive way, how people’s ability to change varies, how personality preferences can cause misunderstanding, and how to support stressed workers. The leadership author, John C. Maxwell wrote: The […]
Sharla, a Your Uplift reader, wrote: “In my work I find one of the most challenging aspects many patients face in their recoveries is the stigma they face in regards to personality disorders and addiction. There are such awful preconceived ideas about these populations that add a lot of barriers for change and resilience in their lives. […]
Too many of us suffer with as sense that we are not good enough. Recently, three different women friends have prompted me to ponder the subject of believing in our not enoughness or of not doing enough, giving enough or being enough. The Silent Questions of I Am Not Enough The silent questions, that some brave […]
It was in 1984 that I graduated with an MA in Clinical and Humanistic Psychology, which was the forerunner philosophy to Positive Psychology and viewed people from a wholistic perspective. Soon after becoming a therapist and being assigned clients who were living with all kinds of internal turmoil, I realized I needed to better understand […]