Most of us have had moments of loneliness, feeling deep and empty sadness. I felt it as a farm girl, living at the end of a long lane. I felt it in high school, being surrounded by other students while feeling shunned. I felt it when I moved to the city and knew no one. […]
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It takes courage to reach out and mend a broken relationship. Those with a high level of resiliency demonstrate exceptional courage to do so. As the American author and poet, Maya Angelou wrote: Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice […]
Most of us have had our personal boundaries violated. I have been asked in a job interview how much money my husband makes. The obvious answer was “None of your business.” Then there was the manager who patted my behind. Boundaries in relationships help all parties feel emotionally and physically safe. When we establish clear […]
Personal boundaries provide an effective strategy to handle many different external woes or adversities. Survey respondents quoted in my book, From Woe to WOW, indicated such. An outreach worker wrote, “I wish I’d stood up to her,” an office receptionist wrote, “I should have stood up for myself months sooner,” and a nurse wrote, “I didn’t make the world a better place by running away.”
Les and I have attended the Banff Couples Conference (now The Rocky Mountain Couples Retreat) over 27 times! It’s a wonderful weekend of tried and true relationship advice presented by experts intended to deepen and repair new and old coupleships. You see, we have discovered that coupleships can be strengthened and made more resilient […]
Six of our family members were on vacation. I rushed to prepare supper and threw half a dozen big potatoes into the microwave. The machine collapsed, pooped out and is dead. That old flash thought of, “You are stupid,” moved in; regardless of me knowing we all experience shame moments to some extent or another. […]
“The kids are all grown up and we’re empty nesters!” It sounds like a taste of freedom, but once adult children are grown, the relationship works like a retractable dog leash—pull and tug, more or less slack, pushing for space while longing for closeness. It’s like an in and out dance. Indeed, two of our […]
Those who have fallen into the fog of euphoric lust is “move on.” We can let this state of “in love” rob us from valuable time and energy and dead end us from truly living.
I am going to date myself here, but oh, well! For as long as I can remember I love movies about friendship from The Wizard of Oz to ET, to my all time favorite, Beaches with Bette Midler. Back in 2002, the hot movie of the summer was The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood based […]
If a key factor to increasing mental health is a sense of humor, perhaps we could all use a booster shot of smile and laugh.
When I was in my early fifties, I met the psychologist, shaman and poet, Gwendolyn Jansma. While living in San Diego, she offered events called Heart Seek Gatherings in the U.S. and Canada. Gwen, as many of us called her, was intuitive, insightful, fun-spirited, creative, healing, and loving. She spoke words of wisdom. Many times […]
“I would have been more successful if I had a wife like me.” I said this years ago and in jest. Yet, it holds significant truth. Gender differences exist! Women are still under-represented in all levels of government and in corporation boardrooms. At the same time, women are over-represented in family shelters and as ‘single […]