It is a given that humans all have flesh, hearts, and brains. However, we are as different and diverse in our personalities as in our DNA. Sometimes it can be helpful to cluster those personalities into tendencies for the benefit of understanding and improved interaction. I have found knowing the difference between an introverted and extroverted preference […]
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In North America, Medscape reports, on average, women live 5.3 years longer than men. As a wife, mother to one son and grandmother to 3 grandsons, I hope there is a solution to this discouraging fact. I wonder, Are there reasons women appear to build resilience easier than men? Certainly, Pat O’Gorman, author of Dancing Backward in […]
Boosting other people costs nothing, takes little energy and will help those at work and home feel and function better.
Too often one adult declares that another adult is being abusive. Before you decide you are in a bullying or abusive relationship and call the Abuse Police, get a handle on what is really happening. OK? Abuse is mistreatment, by any other person or persons, that violates a person’s human and civil rights. Children […]
Caregiving can be rewarding and exhausting! I know! And I know the importance of caring for the caregiver to avoid burnout. I have done it for pay and for free. Primarily, my caregiving has been, and continues to be, family related. I have had the honor to care for our children, grandchildren, family members living […]
It was a marvellous question! Following a presentation at a women’s conference, a participant asked me, “How do I find a mentor?” Who or What is a Mentor? The Oxford dictionary describes a mentor as an experienced and trusted adviser. A mentor is someone you admire, have confidence in, feel safe around, have ‘studied’ (perhaps read their […]
Drama Triangle–The model describes three unconscious and habitual behavioral habits as “roles” which people often play in relationships.
The Empowerment Triangle: There are three healthy alternatives to playing victim, persecutor or rescuer from the Drama Triangle. They are the creator, the challenger and the coach.
We flourish when we use our social intelligence to create strong friendships and a social network. I will never forget the day I called my friend, Ria. I was feeling panicked because one of our adult children’s lives had gone down the toilet. She said, “You’re strong. All you need is someone to hold you while […]
Almost every week I hear a client or others talk about a relationship they might end. “She drives me crazy! She talks negatively about her life, on and on.” Should you ditch the, so called, negative people in your life? According to motivational guru, Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you […]
A phone call from Hanna, Alberta prompted me to create Merry Love-making: How to Enliven Long Term Intimacy. It has been presented at numerous women’s conferences and a Foster Parent retreat. The women of Hanna wanted to know how to keep a long term relationship exciting, romantic, engaging, and pleasurable. Although I am not a […]
There is exciting news for long term relationships! Dr. Eli Finkel, a professor of social psychology at Northwestern University, and his colleagues noticed that we have come to expect our spouses to fill roles traditionally filled by platonic friends; relationships such as co-workers, neighbours, and friends. This puts unnecessary pressure, and sometimes conflict into our […]