Being Blamed: It’s Hard But You Can Handle It with Grace
Oftentimes people are attacking out of their own hang-ups and it has little to do with us.
Communication Skills
assert, assertiveness, speak, listen, feedback, manage conflict,
Improve Your Communication through Assertiveness Training
Taking an assertive stance seldom fails. To avoid speaking passively or an aggressively discover basic assertiveness training skills.
How Healthy Boundaries Can Protect Your Values
Personal boundaries provide an effective strategy to handle many different external woes or adversities. Survey respondents quoted in my book, From Woe to WOW, indicated such. An outreach worker wrote, “I wish I’d stood up to her,” an office receptionist wrote, “I should have stood up for myself months sooner,” and a nurse wrote, “I didn’t make the world a better place by running away.”
Are You Asking Effective Questions?
When we ask the questions, we have a sense of being in control. Ask the open-ended questions to bring you resilient insights, understanding, and conclusions.
Tips to Transform Patterns of Poor Communication
During covid many of us isolated with family or others, and conversations may have gone sideways. Here are tips to transform our communication.
Recognition is Important! Learn How to Do It the Right Way
People with high resilience value acknowledgement and use words of recognition.
12 Tips to Transform Relationship Fighting
The probability of arguing or disagreeing in a love relationship. Some describe these moments as Relationship Fighting.
How to Deliver Useful Information When Giving Feedback
Psychologist, Marg Wolf trained many helping professionals, including me. We were interns in the ten-week domestic violence prevention program called, You are Not Alone. Marg provided clear and helpful feedback that made the process easy, doable, repeatable and empowering. Indeed, her performance feedback improved our skill levels! Not once did I experience criticism. I experienced […]
Blow Your Own Horn: Why and How to Self Promote
Ready to self-promote? Why would you? You will need to self-promote if ever you want to move up a career ladder or move into a desired position, or land a job or sell your services or product. How do you do it? Self-promotion is the ability to let others know your strengths, capabilities, and accomplishments. […]
10 Big Questions to Improve Your Communication Skills
Nancy Loraas, a Calgary-based executive, leadership, and communication coach, sent me a request to fill in a communications questionnaire. As I was filling it in I began to think, “My answers might be helpful to my readers; those interested in effective communication skills.” Consequently, I am sharing Nancy’s questions and my answers. Nancy’s Communication Skills […]
Conversation Quizzes: How to More Effectively Speak and Listen
Just as water is home to fish, our conversations are the context or home to our relationships. Sharing and listening are keys to making relationships work. Good communication that creates mutual understanding is even better. Effectively Speak Let us begin with speaking with honesty, kindness, authenticity, and sometimes assertiveness. You have control over the words you choose. […]
Master the Fine Art of Giving Criticism
The American reporter and humorist, Franklin P. Jones (1908-1980), wrote, “Honest criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a friend, an acquaintance or a stranger.” Like Jones, you may dislike receiving criticism. Logically then, we should also be cautious about giving criticism. I was once given twenty-seven criticisms in the guise of feedback. […]