In a recent social media exchange, the question of when to accept the status quo and when to uphold one’s beliefs was sparked. I posted, “When faced with an unchangeable situation, take a moment to reconsider your perspective.” I firmly believe that adapting to change is a valuable skill. However, one person’s response challenged my […]
social intelligence, feelings, boundaries, emotions, humor
The self-help leader and author of Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill wrote, “Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday.” Does this ring a bell for you? If so, have you wondered how to stop procrastinating? Do you repeatedly find […]
Childhood, adolescent, and sometimes adult experiences can create core negative beliefs. In childhood, these beliefs can be planted by the absence of parental or caregiver attention and security.
Sharla, a Your Uplift reader, wrote: “In my work I find one of the most challenging aspects many patients face in their recoveries is the stigma they face in regards to personality disorders and addiction. There are such awful preconceived ideas about these populations that add a lot of barriers for change and resilience in their lives. […]
Have you ever watched helplessly while someone struggled with fear, anxiety, overwhelm, loss or discouragement? You are not alone in wanting to provide effective emotional support!
Children learn to bully! We contribute to others being bullied when we model disrespect, judgement, unmanaged anger, name calling and acts of aggression.
Your job is to stop demeaning yourself in the middle of a comparison. As the old adage goes you can’t compare apples to oranges.
Researching to find a therapist is an important step. Yet, there is an even more important first step–a willingness to commit to the process. A woman called me saying her love relationship was struggling. She wanted to find a therapist who would work with her and her boyfriend. But after she suggested to her boyfriend […]
When I ask my women audiences, “Please, put your hand up if your family or friends say to you, ‘Stop worrying!’” approximately a third of them raise their hands.
Learn to become familiar with your feeling state. Imagine watching yourself as if you were between 18 and 24 months old. Just notice. There is no need to express. Just be and study what this feeling is telling you.
Oftentimes people are attacking out of their own hang-ups and it has little to do with us.
For deep healing we want to use mindful self-care to heal from an Inner Child perspective, that is give ourselves what we did not get in our developing years.