Do you tell people, maybe your children, “You are special? You are smart? You are amazing?” Do you send yourself similar messages? But, wait! These lines are not necessarily the best for anyone’s development of healthy self-esteem, confidence, compassion or self-compassion. Believing You are smart, may be true or not. Numerous and recent research projects […]
social intelligence, feelings, boundaries, emotions, humor
Many people imagine they are merely feeling sad or blue when actually they are in a depressed state. Others imagine they are depressed when they are merely feeling sad. It will help to know the difference between feeling blue and depressed. Sadness is a natural emotion. We have experienced sadness since we were in our […]
Dr. Seuss was correct, You have a brain in your head. Use it well. Wipe out the cobwebs. Nourish it with wisdom and compassion. Our present culture tends to fill our children’s brains will commercialism, greedy, sugar, violent images, mean-spirited competition, contempt, discontent, and trivia. What really matters are the deep virtues that are expressed over and […]
You may not want to change your name, but I did in less than two minutes after meeting Gwendolyn Jansma. Nearly a hundred people had gathered in a community hall to be moved, perhaps even changed, by this pixie-size woman. She knew all their names and she was about to ask me for mine. She approached with […]
Lance Armstrong’s Deception Caught The headlines were filled with cycling champion, Lance Armstrong’s lying, deception, and cheating. In an interview with Oprah Winfrey (televised January 17, 2013) he said, “I went and looked up the definition of cheat . . . the definition is to gain an advantage on a rival or foe. I did not view it that way. […]
For over 25 years I have taken my journal to Sunday service. For many of those years my spiritual guide was The Reverend Doctor Carol Carnes, author of The Way In. Now those journals are filled with spiritual quotes that support my continued efforts to build personal, emotional, and spiritual resilience. When a spiritual quote resonates, […]
When bullying is happening, our culture wants to move into an anti-bullying mode of defence. But maybe there is a more effective strategy. When our son, Benjamin was 15 years old we moved to Calgary. We had no idea he was bullied until one day he came home with a whack of hair cut out of […]
Growing up on a farm, the idea of my parents self-indulging never crossed my and my siblings’ minds. Mind you, it does not probably cross the mind of the person who engages in egomaniac, self-admiring, diva, princess or prima-donna behavior who barely functions in the cubical down the way from your or somebody else’s workspot! […]
Oftentimes we are encouraged to set goals for our ourselves or our organization. Most often we are then encouraged to keep plugging along at our goals. But sometimes, we would be wise to let go and move one. When when to you know if it is time to let it go? Kenny Rogers sings in […]
What creates bullying-type behaviours? . . . What do we know will make a positive difference?
. I often leave memorial services inspired to live my days to their fullest . . . and often more consciously.
Learn to become familiar with your feeling state. Imagine watching yourself as if you were between 18 and 24 months old. Just notice. There is no need to express. Just be and study what this feeling is telling you.