“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” Soren Kierkegaard, Danish existentialist philosopher. My client said something like, “I hate my life. Are you suggesting that I need to accept what is to move on? How does that make sense?” We were discussing an existential paradox. It reminded me of the […]
bounce back, bouncing back, strength, grit, flourish,
You, along with millions of others, are probably on alert due to the potential danger of the coronavirus. One visible result is crowds of people purchasing and hoarding toilet paper! If you are not directly facing the challenges of the virus, you are probably dealing with the ripple effects of the protective measures our community […]
Each evening between 10:30 and 11 pm, my hubby, Les retires to bed. Each morning he rises between 6:30 and 7 am. Regardless the weather, each day he takes 2 to 3 walks and eats 3 conservative sized meals plus one evening sweet treat. Each Sunday he waters the plants and attends Sunday service with […]
Why do we bother to volunteer? What’s the pay off? We ask lots of “what’s in it for me” questions in other areas of our life.
When I attended a presentation by leadership trainer and author, Joan McArthur-Blair, the room was packed. The audience members were primarily career counselors. McArthur-Blair is the co-author (along with Jeanie Cockell) of the book, Building Resilience with Appreciative Inquiry: A Leadership Journey through Hope, Despair, and Forgiveness. I was pleased to buy a copy of […]
As a therapist, I witness people whose lives have fallen apart or have become unbearable to continue as is. I often hear the simple but dreadfully difficult question to answer, “Why?” People naturally long to create meaning from their emotional pain. Resilience is called upon when we face tough situations. We want to bounce back, […]
Many of us have moved from saying “Woe is me” to “WOW! I survived and I am even thriving.” We could ask ourselves, “Where did my resiliency develop? And if it did not develop in childhood, when did it develop?” If you do not identify yourself as being resilient to challenges, you may not recognize […]
Why do we love quotations? Because they are like nuggets of gold; pure thoughts that can improve our thinking, self-perception, and worldview. You will see I favor my mentor and researcher Dr. Al Siebert (1934-2009). He wrote The Survivor Personality and The Resiliency Advantage. Here some famous and powerful resilience quotes: Define Resilience “Resiliency is […]
Indeed, light heartedness and sense of humor is a basic resilience strengthening strategy.
Leaders know. Those who hire business coaches know. Big Brothers and Sisters know. They know our lives are influenced by other people and we can speed being and doing our best when we choose resilient and healthy role models. Yet, many of us give little thought to the idea of having role models. There is […]
An audience member wrote: “I would like to learn more about understanding what makes us the way we are.” Hmm, as in what makes us human or what makes us different than others? I wasn’t sure how to start my return email and, yet, I did. Here is my attempt: The Chicken or Egg Theory […]
The French playwrite, Moliere, said, “It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.”