As a therapist, I witness people whose lives have fallen apart or have become unbearable to continue as is. I often hear the simple but dreadfully difficult question to answer, “Why?” People naturally long to create meaning from their emotional pain. Resilience is called upon when we face tough situations. We want to bounce back, […]
Many of us have moved from saying “Woe is me” to “WOW! I survived and I am even thriving.” We could ask ourselves, “Where did my resiliency develop? And if it did not develop in childhood, when did it develop?” If you do not identify yourself as resilient, you may not recognize your capacity to […]
Have you heard of the break-through therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization, and Reprocessing (EMDR)? American psychologist, Francine Shapiro developed it in the early 1990s. In 2012 Shapiro released a self-help book to help the public access her theory and processes. In Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR, Shapiro […]
Years ago my father did not speak to me for six months. When our oldest daughter, Kelly was in jail (see the book, Love Her As She Is) she asked for bail money. After we said no, she did not speak to us for many months. When our youngest daughter told us about her diagnosis […]
One of the most effective ways to strengthen personal resilient is to explore your childhood.
For as long as I can remember I love movies about friendship from The Wizard of Oz to ET, to my all time favorite, Beaches with Bette Midler. In 2002, the hot movie of the summer was The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood based on the book authored by Rebecca Wells. My women friends were abuzz with talk of the […]
Years ago at a therapy training session, I was trigged into feeling deep emotional pain. Those feelings hijacked my focus. When I approached the trainer in a distraught state she looked at me and said, “You do know how to self-regulate, don’t you?” The training content reminded me of something I had done long ago […]
The reports of six Canadian veterans, including the death of twenty year old, Leona MacEachern of suicide, deeply troubled me. The media surmised that their despair was caused by Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), which was caused by experiencing the horror of military service. PSTD and suicide are often paired; too often! Child of a […]
We live in an addiction-prone culture filled with many invitations to become addicted. Magazine and television advertisements are filled with promises of a quick fix (they say cure) from many physical, mental or emotional discomforts. I am not denying the need for medications for real pain, clinical depression or other mental health disorders. The problem […]
A woman called me saying her love relationship was struggling. She wanted to find a therapist who would work with both her and her boyfriend. But after she suggested to her boyfriend that they come to see me, she sent me this message “I do not know what to do anymore. I asked Harry to join […]
To love yourself unconditionally means to treasure yourself merely because you exist.