“Lean on me, when you’re not strong And I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on…” Yes, we all need someone to lean on! It was at Sunday Service when Amy Bishop began singing Lean on Me, I thought of our world that often praises self-sufficiency and independence. Bill Withers’ 1972 classic, “Lean on […]
“Shame on you!” hits differently than “You are guilty of taking the cookie from the cookie jar.” While they might sound similar, shame and guilt are actually very different emotional experiences—and both can deeply affect our well-being. Add in resentment, especially when it’s directed at those who trigger these feelings, and it becomes even more […]
When it comes to building strong, healthy relationships, two fundamental skills are often overlooked: speaking with courage and listening with compassion. Whether you’re having conversations at home or at work, developing these skills can lead to more meaningful interactions. I often see clients in my counselling therapy practice who wither away in silence of erupt […]
Browsing through the spirituality section of my bookshelf, I found myself reflecting on some of my favorite spiritual quotes about life. They reminded me to pause. In the rush of a fast-paced world, there’s something more grounding than taking a moment to settle into a comforting phrase or idea. Spiritual quotes can offer meaning and […]
The world needs more kindness! In some moments, on some days, someone feels hurt, sad, angry, frustrated, discouraged, worried or anxious. It might be you, your children, your spouse, your friend, your neighbor or a coworker. That’s a probability. Also, true is demonstrating sincere kindness can positively affect your family, community and, yes, the […]
Introduction to Ego State Therapy When you step into the realm of Psychology 101, you inevitably encounter Freud’s ego states of id, ego, and super ego. The concept attempts to describe our self-identity, and childhood influences on our thoughts, behaviors, and interactions. But it doesn’t stop there. Understanding ego states really flourished when, in the […]
There was a palatable hype in the room—several hundred people yelling, jumping and hugging to the rhythm of deafening music. “Raise your hand and say, Aye! Come on guys! Say it!” That is misleading positive psychology hype.
Too many of us suffer with as sense that we are not good enough. Recently, three different women friends have prompted me to ponder the subject of believing in our not enoughness or of not doing enough, giving enough or being enough. The Silent Questions of I Am Not Enough The silent questions, aligned with […]
Have you ever watched helplessly while someone struggled with fear, anxiety, overwhelm, loss or discouragement? You are not alone in wanting to provide effective emotional support!
I add; it is about kindness and seeking to understand. My own experience with our daughter Kelly, who spent a great deal of time in jail over an eleven year period, is love draws a circle that takes the other in. One of the best ways to demonstrate that care is to seek to understand with out judgment.
Researchers, as well as ancient and recent philosophers, honor the act of crying. Never do they suggest you must cry nor stop crying.
We have all been betrayed by someone we love. From the darkness, we can move into the light and learn to trust and forgive again. You deserve to heal.