Adults better influence when children feel a deep sense of connection, bonding, and caring relationship. It is the adult’s responsibility to build that parent-child relationship. In an ideal world, children would have a close physical, attaching, and bonding experience from birth forward. But sometimes this ideal picture is disrupted due to a range of […]
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“We are abusing our children in new ways. We are diminishing their resilience, their ability to deal with small or large challenges by overindulging them.” Jean Illsley Clarke, author of How Much Is Enough? This was the basic message Jean Illsley Clarke delivered at a Calgary public seminar. She and her colleagues have published their […]
Children are affected by natural disasters, but their level of understanding varies with their age and language ability. As parents and caregivers, we want to support them and encourage them to express their feelings and thoughts about the event. Here is an ages and stages guide to help you channel their anxiety into positive actions. […]
Our culture is laced with lies. Movies, TV shows, advertising and the rest of us typically exaggerate, twist facts, create stories, and deny the truth. On a particularly bad day many of us have answered, “Fine, thank you,” when asked, “How are you?” How many of us have told a lie because we didn’t want […]
“I might be a solo parent but I don’t have to do it all alone.” Remember that Super Mom or Super Dad is not even a comic book character! Be open with your children. Tell them the truth or a childlike version of it. Children sense everything but they don’t always know the questions to […]
It is affirming to see some fathers pushing baby prams and taking parental leave. My Dad never saw the inside of a poopy diaper. By my generation childcare was starting to go in a gender equal direction. Now, I see my children parent with even more equity. Yet, I also see family stress spinning in […]
Three pages, with big headlines in The Calgary Herald, described WE Days. Two of the headlines read, “WE Day Rallies Youth” and “WE Day Sows Seeds of Social Awareness, and Celebrities say Kids are True Stars.” This Calgary event attracted over 18,000 enthused, excited, committed youth. Hallelujah! Some good news made it in the media. […]
Growing up on a farm, the idea of my parents self-indulging never crossed my and my siblings’ minds. Mind you, it does not probably cross the mind of the person who engages in egomaniac, self-admiring, diva, princess or prima-donna behavior who barely functions in the cubical down the way from your or somebody else’s workspot! […]
What creates bullying-type behaviours? . . . What do we know will make a positive difference?
“We have a plan!” I’ve heard that at many workplace meetings when the team assembled to prevent or solve a problem. To reduce your family stress and increase your family’s resilience begin to have regular Family Meetings. Too many families wait until there is a serious issue before coming together to discuss making changes. Most businesses, faith, volunteer, […]
Delightfully, out of the mouths of babes comes the truth. We adults have workaholiced ourselves away from taking time to wonder at life nuances. We are socialized to worry about what the neighbours and our mother-in-law think, to look successful and to hide our feelings to the point that we have forgotten the essence of a normally absurd life. There is much we can learn by connecting to babies and children. They remind us of our own childlike essence – the kid in us.
Disagreements abound in relationships from politics to parenting. In Parent Effectiveness Training, Thomas Gordon states “Parents don’t have to put up a “United Front.” Let me offer some perspective and possible options.