Seldom is there a person who does not long to be seen, heard and acknowledged. Yet, many people feel unseen, unheard, unacknowledged and neglected. In my years of facilitating parent education, family counseling, marriage counseling, group counseling and individual counseling, and speaking to thousands, I have noticed that people repeatedly light up at the simplest statement […]
Dr. Seuss was correct, You have a brain in your head. Use it well. Wipe out the cobwebs. Nourish it with wisdom and compassion. Our present culture tends to fill our children’s brains will commercialism, greedy, sugar, violent images, mean-spirited competition, contempt, discontent, and trivia. What really matters are the deep virtues that are expressed over and […]
Our culture is laced with lies. Movies, TV shows, advertising and the rest of us typically exaggerate, twist facts, create stories, and deny the truth. On a particularly bad day many of us have answered, “Fine, thank you,” when asked, “How are you?” How many of us have told a lie because we didn’t want […]
“I might be a solo parent but I don’t have to do it all alone.” Remember that Super Mom or Super Dad is not even a comic book character! Be open with your children. Tell them the truth or a childlike version of it. Children sense everything but they don’t always know the questions to […]
It is affirming to see some fathers pushing baby prams and taking parental leave. My Dad never saw the inside of a poopy diaper. By my generation childcare was starting to go in a gender equal direction. Now, I see my children parent with even more equity. Yet, I also see family stress spinning in […]
When bullying is happening, our culture wants to move into an anti-bullying mode of defence. But maybe there is a more effective strategy. When our son, Benjamin was 15 years old we moved to Calgary. We had no idea he was bullied until one day he came home with a whack of hair cut out of […]
Growing up on a farm, the idea of my parents self-indulging never crossed my and my siblings’ minds. Mind you, it does not probably cross the mind of the person who engages in egomaniac, self-admiring, diva, princess or prima-donna behavior who barely functions in the cubical down the way from your or somebody else’s workspot! […]
“We have a plan!” I’ve heard that at many workplace meetings when the team assembled to prevent or solve a problem. To reduce your family stress and increase your family’s resilience begin to have regular Family Meetings. Too many families wait until there is a serious issue before coming together to discuss making changes. Most businesses, faith, volunteer, […]
Delightfully, out of the mouths of babes comes the truth. We adults have workaholiced ourselves away from taking time to wonder at life nuances. We are socialized to worry about what the neighbours and our mother-in-law think, to look successful and to hide our feelings to the point that we have forgotten the essence of a normally absurd life. There is much we can learn by connecting to babies and children. They remind us of our own childlike essence – the kid in us.
By knowing who contributes time to what tasks will help you better invite cooperation for sharing home responsibilities.