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  1. Rose White
    March 24, 2016 @ 9:53 pm

    I am fairly new at my workplace. I have been told (by 1 or 2 others) that I ask my co-workers too many questions. We have very little time to chat and so in my desire to make connections with others I will ask questions that I wouldn’t myself consider intrusive. Just a means to get to know them. Surely they can see I am asking out of my concern for them. That I am genuinely interested in them. I think the best part of the job is the collegiality we develop, the team – building we can do. I am not asking anything personal, just general things. Anyone can ask me just about anything – I can answer, make a joke, say I am not sure or tell them I don’t want to answer. But I cannot understand getting annoyed!

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    • Patricia Morgan
      March 27, 2016 @ 10:04 pm

      Hi Rose, Thank you for leaving your message. You did not ask me a question. However, here are some thoughts and considerations: You may want to experiment with different behavior to settle into your new environment. Consider:
      1) observe your co-workers and discern which ones demonstrate introverted and extroverted preferences. Those with an introverted preference more easily feel invaded by uninvited questions and conversation. To learn more go to hhttp://solutionsforresilience.com/introvert-and-extrovert. Then deliberately give those with introverted preferences more space.
      2) You wrote “Surely they can see I am asking out of my concern for them.” That may be your intention but it may violate this workplace’s norm. Each workplace has its own norm of how much focus they give to work and how much to socialization. Observe ‘the norm’. Try following the leaders’ examples.
      3) You also wrote, “the best part of the job is the collegiality we develop, the team – building”. Relationship is probably a high value for you. Others may more value ‘getting tasks completed’ or ‘attending to details and getting the facts’ or ‘creating a vision and implementing it”. Healthy workplaces honour employee all values.
      4) We are all annoyed by others who not honour our values, what is important to us. Consider, observing and seeking to understand others’ strengths, preferences and values. Here is a guide to identifying strengths — http://solutionsforresilience.com/discover-your-strengths.
      5) In the end you may decide to move onto another job that is a better fit your strengths and values.

      All the best as your career advances!

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  2. Patricia Morgan
    June 28, 2010 @ 9:29 pm

    Hi Tara,
    So glad you found yourself and a ripple of your good work. We need more people like you doing the message of Peace on Earth.

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  3. Tara Maniar
    June 28, 2010 @ 9:13 pm

    I did a search of my name and discovered this. Glad to see the ripple effect. Thanks for the credit.

    I’m doing a lot of work around Peace and helping individuals to discover and live their purpose / passion. If I can be of service to you, please let me know.

    With Love and Peace, Tara
    In the Service of Humanity and Guruji

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