.Move like an optimist! It is impossible to feel depressed while smiling, walking briskly or dancing to happy music.
Personal boundaries provide an effective strategy to handle many different external woes or adversities. Survey respondents quoted in my book, From Woe to WOW, indicated such. An outreach worker wrote, “I wish I’d stood up to her,” an office receptionist wrote, “I should have stood up for myself months sooner,” and a nurse wrote, “I didn’t make the world a better place by running away.”
Delightfully, out of the mouths of babes comes the truth. We adults have workaholiced ourselves away from taking time to wonder at life nuances. We are socialized to worry about what the neighbours and our mother-in-law think, to look successful and to hide our feelings to the point that we have forgotten the essence of a normally absurd life. There is much we can learn by connecting to babies and children. They remind us of our own childlike essence – the kid in us.
•What is the worst work related experience you’ve endured?
•How did you cope?
•Looking back, what did you learn?
Have you ever wondered how to stop procrastinating? It’s important to learn if you repeatedly find yourself stuck in an unhealthy body, friendships, intimate relationships or work environments.
Resilience is considered a strength based concept. Kowing and finding ways and means to use your strengthen will improve you well-being in many ways.
Benjamin Franklin, said, “When you’re finished changing, you’re finished.”
“What is right about you?” is a basic resiliency strengthening question.
Disagreements abound in relationships from politics to parenting. In Parent Effectiveness Training, Thomas Gordon states “Parents don’t have to put up a “United Front.” Let me offer some perspective and possible options.
Seligman released Flourish. Seligman is a researcher, questioner and thinker who is willing to re-think his research finding, theories and positioning.
Your job is to stop demeaning yourself in the middle of a comparison. As the old adage goes you can’t compare apples to oranges.
Re-writing your story—an effective strategy for strengthening resilience.