Six of our family members were on vacation. I rushed to prepare supper and threw half a dozen big potatoes into the microwave. The machine collapsed, pooped out and is dead. That old flash thought of, “You are stupid,” moved in; regardless of me knowing we all experience shame moments to some extent or another. […]
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“The kids are all grown up and we’re empty nesters!” It sounds like a taste of freedom, but once adult children are grown, the relationship works like a retractable dog leash—pull and tug, more or less slack, pushing for space while longing for closeness. It’s like an in and out dance. Indeed, two of our […]
I am going to date myself here, but oh, well! For as long as I can remember I love movies about friendship from The Wizard of Oz to ET, to my all time favorite, Beaches with Bette Midler. Back in 2002, the hot movie of the summer was The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood based […]
If a key factor to increasing mental health is a sense of humor, perhaps we could all use a booster shot of smile and laugh.
When I was in my early fifties, I met the psychologist, shaman and poet, Gwendolyn Jansma. While living in San Diego, she offered events called Heart Seek Gatherings in the U.S. and Canada. Gwen, as many of us called her, was intuitive, insightful, fun-spirited, creative, healing, and loving. She spoke words of wisdom. Many times […]
“I would have been more successful if I had a wife like me.” I said this years ago and in jest. Yet, it holds significant truth. Gender differences exist! Women are still under-represented in all levels of government and in corporation boardrooms. At the same time, women are over-represented in family shelters and as ‘single […]
The probability of arguing or disagreeing in a love relationship. Some describe these moments as Relationship Fighting.
Teresa said, “Patricia, I would love to read some of your work on dealing with employees who are controlling, easily agitated and off the wall! It seems like my co-worker wants to get even with me for nothing. She starts yelling even if I dare to identify areas that could easily be improved. What are […]
Years ago my father did not speak to me for six months. When our oldest daughter, Kelly was in jail (see the book, Love Her As She Is) she asked for bail money. After we said no, she did not speak to us for many months. When our youngest daughter told us about her diagnosis […]
Dr. John M. Gottman has trained many marital counselors from Calgary and around the world. I have met a good number of them and they all praise his work. Gottman is described as North America’s most knowledgeable researcher in the area of successful marriage. Yet, I suggest you consider his concepts as described here to […]
Every now and then our relationships could benefit from an examination. Of course, it begins with ourselves. We can check our generosity, honesty, kindness, compassion, appreciation, empathy, and love. As was written in the bible, “The greatest of these is love.” Gary Chapman, the family therapist and author of The Five Love Languages, provides a key […]
My heart was touched. Les and I were sharing dinner and personal stories with our friends, Judy and Tink. Judy Armstrong is an actress, singer, songwriter, and dancer. Years ago, she fell in love with Tink, an actor, singer, dancer, and choreographer. During one glance, I noticed their hands met and caressed. I thought, “I am in […]